PARENTING-DISCIPLINE-LOVE
Pity the home
and church where fathers, finding in their hearts no love for their sons, cast
them off without benefit of discipline. And pity the sons who grow up yearning
for this proof of their sonship.
Wayne Grudem and Dennis Rainey
Pastoral Leadership for Manhood and
Womanhood, Crossway Books, 2002, p. 126.
Faithfully
disciplining (training, educating, correcting) your child in a manner that
pleases the Lord is an expression of biblical love. It also is a step of
obedience for you as a parent and provides godly direction for your child.
Biblical Counseling Foundation
Self-Confrontation Manuel, Lesson 17, Page 8,
Used by Permission of the Biblical Counseling Foundation.
Love precedes
discipline.
John Owen
Quoted in: The Father’s
Discipline, Tabletalk, Oct. 2004, p. 45, Used by Permission.
If
we have followed through…in showing unconditional love, then a child will
be more ready and able to accept discipline when it has to be given, for he
will understand the spirit in which it is given.
Melvin Tinker
Wisdom to Live By, Christian Focus Publications,
1998, p. 162.
Used by Permission.
How can you
balance discipline and love? Discipline is an expression of love… Rather
than being something to balance with love, it is the deepest expression of
love.
Tedd Tripp
Shepherding a Child’s Heart,
Shepherd Press, 1995, p. 55. Used by Permission.
Ask yourself
this question. Who benefits if you do not spank you child? Surely
not the child. The [biblical] passages make it clear that such failure
places the child at risk. Who benefits? You do. You are delivered from the discomfort
of spanking the child. You are delivered from the agony of inflicting pain on
one who is precious to you. You are delivered from the inconvenience and loss
of time which biblical discipline requires. I believe this is why the Bible
says in Proverbs 13:24 – “He who spares the rod hates his son, but
he who loves him is careful to discipline him.” According to this
passage, hatred is what will keep me from spanking my child. Love will force me
to it.
Tedd Tripp
Shepherding a Child’s Heart,
Shepherd Press, 1995, p. 134-135. Used by
Permission.