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Tolerance and
passivity define today’s approach to parenting. Restraint and correction
are deemed too confining for the child’s psyche. Self-esteem has
superseded self-control. Parents are afraid to correct wrong behavior. They are
urged by experts to let their children express themselves freely. Too
many parents are utterly absent from their own children’s sphere of moral
influence. The child’s nature is simply permitted to take its course, and
by the time the parent realizes the utter depravity of the child’s heart,
things are already on a course for calamity.
Successful Christian Parenting, 1998, p.
33-34.
You cannot
control your children, you say. Then the Lord have
mercy on you! It is your
business to do it, and you must do it, or else you will soon find they will
control you. No one knows what judgment will come from God upon those who allow
sin in children to go unrebuked.
C.H. Spurgeon
If we never
have headaches through rebuking our children, we shall have plenty of
heartaches when they grow up.
C.H. Spurgeon
Faithfully
disciplining (training, educating, correcting) your child in a manner that
pleases the Lord is an expression of biblical love. It also is a step of
obedience for you as a parent and provides godly direction for your child.
Biblical Counseling Foundation
Self-Confrontation Manuel, Lesson 17, Page 8,
Used by Permission of the Biblical Counseling Foundation.
The parent is
to punish a disobedient child not because he is angry, but because he is right-
because God requires it, and the welfare of the child demands it.
A.W. Pink
A Word to Parents.
God wants to
be loved and obeyed at all times, not just when the consequences seem great to
us. You must discipline your children every time they are disobedient. As
God’s agent, you do not have the right to excuse or ignore disobedience.
God requires you to bring up your children in the fear of the Lord. You may not
make obedience a trivial or occasional issue. When a child deliberately
disobeys, you have no choice but to exercise discipline out of love for God and
love for your child.
John A. Younts
Everyday Talk, Talking Freely and Naturally about God
with Your Children, Shepherd Press, 2004, p. 69, Used by Permission.
Far better
that (children) should cry under healthful correction, than that parents should
afterwards cry under the bitter fruit to themselves and children, of neglected
discipline.
Charles Bridges
Proverbs.
[Children]
cannot bring themselves up properly. This cannot happen because God says
“foolishness is bound up in the heart of a child” (Prov. 22:15), and
that “a child left to himself, a child who gets his own way bring shame
to his mother” (Prov. 29:15). Scripture thus asserts that if you allow a
child to bring himself up, if you raise him in an
atmosphere of complete freedom, if you allow him to make all his own choices,
to do his own thing, to express himself freely, the result will be shameful.
God never intended children to bring themselves up. He gave them parents who
are to be actively engaged in making the children what God wants them to be.
Wayne A. Mack
Strengthening Your Marriage, P &R
Publishing, 1977, p. 148. Used by
Permission.