Proud People

Broken People

Focus on the failures of others

Overwhelmed with a sense of their own spiritual need

Look down on others

Esteem all others as better than self

Independent/self-sufficient spirit

Dependent spirit/recognize need for others

Maintain control: must be my way

Surrender Control

Have to prove that they are right

Willing to yield the right to be right

Claim rights

Yield rights

Demanding spirit

Giving spirit

Self-protective of time, rights, reputation

Self-denying

Desire to be served

Motivated to serve others

Desire to be a success

Desire to be faithful to make others a success

Desire to be recognized/appreciated

Sense of unworthiness; thrilled to be used at all; eager for others to get credit

Think of what they can do for God

Know that they have nothing to offer God

Feel confident in how much they know

Humbled by how much they have to learn

Self-conscious

Not concerned with self at all

Keep people at arms’ length

Risk getting close to others/willing to take risks of loving intimately

Quick to blame others

Accept personal responsibility-can see where they were wrong

Unapproachable

"Easy to be entreated"

Defensive when criticized

Receive criticism with a humble, open heart

Concerned with being "respectable’

Concerned with being real

Concerned about what others think

All that matters is what God knows

Find it difficult to share their spiritual needs with others

Willing to be open/transparent with others

Have a hard time saying, ‘I was wrong—please forgive me"

Are quick to admit failure and to seek forgiveness

When confessing sin, deal in generalities

Deal in specifics

Remorseful over their sin—got caught/found out

Repentant over sin (forsake it)

Compare themselves with others and feel deserving of honor

Compare themselves to the holiness of God and feel desperate need for mercy

Blind to their true heart condition

Walk in the light

Don’t think they have anything to repent of

Continual heart attitude of repentance